Who is a surrogate?

Who is a surrogate?

When a lady agrees to deliver the biological baby of commissioning couples upon agreement by receiving a financial compensation, she is referred as surrogate. Normally, when couples learn that they are unable to have a biological baby due to their medical complexities, they search for a substitute lady through a recognized surrogate agency to own a biological baby. The agency speaks with the intended parents willing to own a baby through surrogates and match them with the proxy and provide necessary guidelines to start the process.

The potential commissioning couples and potential proxy mothers should understand the process before they enter into it. There are two types of surrogacy; traditional and gestational, which is also referred by the names altruistic, commercial; partial and full surrogacy. In traditional surrogacy, a surrogate mother is impregnated through artificial insemination (AI) process. It is a type of ART (Assisted Reproductive Technology) technique where the commissioning father sperm is taken by a clinical procedure and later injected to the substitute mother cervix during ovulation. In this way, the pregnancy is achieved through injecting the sperms of an intended father. A natural process of pregnancy is done artificially to impregnate a lady. The baby born though this process will be biologically connected to intended father a surrogate mother. As this effects the religious beliefs and traditional value, this type of surrogacy is banned completely.

The most common and legal form of surrogacy is gestational surrogacy type. In this process, the embryo created with the gametes of intended parents is injected into the uterus of a surrogate mother to achieve pregnancy. The surrogate mother cost varies according to many factors. Therefore, intended parents need to inquire about the things before entering into the process. 

Suggestions for surrogate mother

When a lady decides to become a surrogate mother, it is not as easy as it appears to the outside world. Although the surrogacy process involves some thousands of dollars, not every woman works for the compensation. According to the many surveys conducted in the United States of America, they revealed that most of the surrogate mother conceives to fulfil the desires of the childless couple. They have the service mind rather than compensation paid for their service. It is also revealed that most of the ladies accept to become surrogate mother as they enjoy the feelings of pregnancy, the baby movement, its turns and its kicks makes them to feel happy.

This blog is dedicated to the probable mothers who are in the verge of becoming a substitute to fulfil the desires of the sterile couple. Here are some suggestions that can help the potential surrogates to start their journey of surrogacy.

Educate yourself:

It is quite important for the ladies to gather extensive information on the process and how doctors, agencies and intended couples help them in the entire process. Most of the agencies prefer gestational surrogacy type that involves IVF treatment. It is the only process accepted legally by different state laws and it is legally less complicated. It is good to know about this treatment for the first time surrogates.

Introduce yourself:

It is good to introduce yourself to the intended parents. Give them a brief overview about your family, children etc as it helps develop a good relationship with the sterile couples. It is also important for the substitutes to know about sterile couples, ask them to brief about themselves, as well. It is good if both parties develop a good relationship as it will help them in overall process of surrogacy. 

Know these factors before you opt to become surrogate

Surrogacy can be considered one of the selfless acts performed by women. To establish a family of childless couples, a surrogate will bear the pain, comforts and discomforts of pregnancy. However, surrogacy is involved with both physical and psychological risks. Couples who are seeking surrogates should understand that a lady will feel a psychological trauma at the moment of relinquishing the child born in her fetus. It is not as easy as it appears to the outside world.

The psychological risk faced by a surrogate mother is very difficult to imagine. Therefore, most of the proxy agencies recommend pre-screening tests as well as psychological tests where the surrogate mother is trained both physically and mentally to relinquish the child immediately after birth. The physiatrist mainly concentrates on the four areas which are contact, control, closure and ethics. The doctors encourage surrogate mother to establish a strong bond with the couples with whom they are working for, which helps a mother to hand over the baby after birth. If the bond with the baby is stronger than with the bond of couples; then she may feel difficult to handing over the new born.

Most of the agencies encourage couple and surrogate to establish a good relationship, enjoy each and every moment of the pregnancy. It will help both parties to gain a good relationship with the child. When you understand a person better, you need not worry about hand over your own baby to them.

A lady willing to become a surrogate should concentrate on all these facts and should question herself that is she ready to relinquish the baby after birth? After all, it is the matter of realizing the dreams of a couple who are keenly waiting for it.